Values & Manners
Good MannersTreat everyone with respect, whether younger or older.
Address adults by their last name, Mr. Smith, Ms. Johnson,
However, some teachers may like to be called by their first name with a title in front, Mr. Mark, Ms. Sarah.
Mr. - Mister (used for single and married men Miss - an unmarried woman Mrs. - a married woman Ms. - used for married or unmarried women.
Speak clearly Look everyone in the eye Have a firm handshake Say "please","thank you", and "excuse me" say "Yes, ma'm, "no, ma'm" or "Yes sir", "no, sir" When people first meet you, they'll judge you by your looks; then they will judge you by what you say and how you say it. But over the long-run, friends and co-workers will judge you by the values you hold, and how you behave. And from those, will come your reputation. Ask yourself, what values and reputation you would like to have.
It's easy to list the values we'd like to have: honesty, trustworthiness, friendliness, intelligence, generosity; but it's mucn harder to practice them.
When things are going well, it's easy to behave well; but the true test of your character is behaving well when things are going badly.
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Karen Armstrong, who has written many thoughtful books on the different religions, pointed out that religion was about how you behaved, not what you believed. Religion, she says, is about compassion. And not just compassion for the people in your group, but everyone, even the stranger. grouphttp://www.ethanzuckerman.com/blog/2008/02/28/ted2008-karen-armstrong-and-religions-for-peace/
The Golden Rule best expresses the idea of compassion. Treat others the way you would like to be treated.
Values at Home
Responsibility Procrastination - Take these steps to avoid procrastinating
Values at work & school
Be on time Do your job, don't goof off Listen to your boss/teacher Organized Knowledgeable Accept of criticism Give constructive comments Efficient Perserverence - the ability to stick to a project even if you have trouble Finish what you start
Values friends admire
Sense of humor Trustworthy - you'll do what you say Reliable - they can count on you Honest - you won't tell lies Helpful - if they have a problem, they can ask you to help them Friendly - you are always happy to see them Generous - if they need to borrow something you'll give it to them. Also be generous with your time, if they need someone to talk to. Kind - Treat others equally-respectful. Don't play favorites
Behaviors No One Likes
Snobbishness Dishonesty Body Odor Dirty
Behaviors your parents admire
- Putting your toys and clothes away
- Keeping your room neat
- Picking up messes you make
- Doing your chores
- Not talking back
- Not picking your nose
Faith, Hope, Charity, Wisdom, Justice, Courage, Temperance
The first three are from the early christians, the others are from the pagan philosophers Plato and Pathagorus
In the 13th century the catholic church was at the height of its power under innocence III
The path Buddhists follow
- The greatest achievement is selflessness.
- The greatest worth is self-mastery.
- The greatest quality is seeking to serve others.
- The greatest precept is continual awareness.
- The greatest medicine is the emptiness of everything.
- The greatest action is not conforming with the worlds ways.
- The greatest magic is transmuting the passions.
- The greatest generosity is non-attachment.
- The greatest goodness is a peaceful mind.
- The greatest patience is humility.
- The greatest effort is not concerned with results.
- The greatest meditation is a mind that lets go.
- The greatest wisdom is seeing through appearances.
There is a path to the end of suffering - a gradual path of self-improvement, which is described more detailed in the Eightfold Path. It is the middle way between the two extremes of excessive self-indulgence (hedonism) and excessive self-mortification (asceticism); a
"wandering on the wheel of becoming", Craving, ignorance, delusions, and its effects will disappear gradually, as progress is made on the path.
The Eightfold Path
1. Right View Wisdom
2. Right Intention
3. Right Speech -- Ethical Conduct
4. Right Action
5. Right Livelihood
6. Right Effort -- Mental Development
7. Right Mindfulness
8. Right Concentration
The 10 CommandmentsI. 'You shall have no other gods before Me.'
II. 'You shall not make for yourself a carved image--any likeness of anything that is in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is in the water under the earth.'
III. 'You shall not take the name of the LORD your God in vain.'
IV. 'Remember the Sabbath day, to keep it holy.'
V. 'Honor your father and your mother.'
VI. 'You shall not murder.'
VII. 'You shall not commit adultery.'
VIII. 'You shall not steal.'
IX. 'You shall not bear false witness against your neighbor.'
X. 'You shall not covet your neighbor's house; you shall not covet your neighbor's wife, nor his male servant, nor his female servant, nor his ox, nor his donkey, nor anything that is your neighbor's.'
The Boy Scout OathOn my honor I will do my best
To do my duty to God and my country
and to obey the Scout Law;
To help other people at all times;
To keep myself physically strong,
mentally awake, and morally straight.
Scout Motto - Be Prepared
- TRUSTWORTHY - A Scout tells the truth. He keeps his promises. Honesty is part of his code of conduct. People can depend on him.
- LOYAL - A Scout is true to his family, Scout leaders, friends, school, and nation.
- HELPFUL - A Scout is concerned about other people. He does things willingly for others without pay or reward.
- FRIENDLY - A Scout is a friend to all. He is a brother to other Scouts. He seeks to understand others. He respects those with ideas and customs other than his own.
- COURTEOUS - A Scout is polite to everyone regardless of age or position. He knows good manners make it easier for people to get along together.
- KIND - A Scout understands there is strength in being gentle. He treats others as he wants to be treated. He does not hurt or kill harmless things without reason.
- OBEDIENT - A Scout follows the rules of his family, school, and troop. He obeys the laws of his community and country. If he thinks these rules and laws are unfair, he tries to have them changed in an orderly manner rather than disobey them.
- CHEERFUL - A Scout looks for the bright side of things. He cheerfully does tasks that come his way. He tries to make others happy.
- THRIFTY - A Scout works to pay his way and to help others. He saves for unforeseen needs. He protects and conserves natural resources. He carefully uses time and property.
- BRAVE - A Scout can face danger even if he is afraid. He has the courage to stand for what he thinks is right even if others laugh at or threaten him.
- CLEAN - A Scout keeps his body and mind fit and clean. He goes around with those who believe in living by these same ideals. He helps keep his home and community clean.
- REVERENT- A Scout is reverent toward God. He is faithful in his religious duties. He respects the beliefs of others.
Scout Slogan - Do a Good Turn Daily