Hopes & Dreams

What you mean to me

I had no idea what love was until I saw you. You stared up at me with those vacant eyes, and I thought... Hmmm... I don't remember what I thought.

But I've never loved anyone as much as I love you. At first, all you could do was sleep, eat, poop, and cry. But over the next few months, you learned to smile, laugh, and play. Now you can walk, talk, read, write, and argue. School has just begun and have your whole life ahead of you. My job is to get you off to a good start. I dream of the important things you are going to accomplish, and I hope to live vicariously through you. You'll be everything I wasn't: world class athlete, Olympic medalist, Classical pianist performing on Broadway, United States senator, tenured university professor, published author, and Nobel prize winner. So, you've got a lot of work ahead of you. Stop reading this and get busy!

Our hopes for you

We hope you will be healthy and happy for many more years, and that you will:

Your Livelihood

I hope you find something you enjoy doing and can earn a living doing it. 1/3 of our lives is spent working, so do your best to find something you enjoy. My hope is that you will like science, medicine, law, finance, or engineering. They are all well paying. If you like dance or art, you can find a job also, but not as well paying. If you can find a job that you enjoy, is well paid, and helps others, that would be the best job in the world.

I hope you enjoy learning because the best paying, and most interesting jobs require a college degree. You should get a Master's degree because that will open many doors to you. A Ph.D. is usually not necessary. I claim, "the smart people stop with their Master's and get on with their lives. Only the dumb ones continue on for their Ph.D." But if you really enjoy teaching and research, then a Ph.D. is worthwhile. If you are lucky, you can find someone else to pay for your education. Preferably your boss. The only other way is to pick a major you can't earn any money in. Those fields offer money, well paid Ph.D.s don't.

My cousin Glen told himself that life was short and that he would never work at a job he didn't enjoy. Fortunately, he got a degree in electrical engineering and computer science, and with that degree he could go anywhere in the U.S. because of a great demand for that skill.


I hope you will learn to:

But please don't become a modern artist like Jackson Pollock

Your Responsibilities

With freedom comes responsibilities.

We expect you to pay your own way in the world. That means your wedding. That means your own credit cards. Why? Mom has stories of nephews and neices that have wasted their lives because their parents gave them everything.

A Possible Future

  • 2017 - You're 15, Timmy is 10 and we all fly to Africa for a safari.
  • The summer of 2018 - We'll be scouting out your college picks.
  • At 17 you'll be standing in line waiting for your high school diploma.
  • Before you turn 18, you'll be scuba diving in Bali.
  • 2020 - Now you're in college and on your own.
  • Summer vacation includes backpacking through the Sierra Nevadas and a river rafting trip through the Grand Canyon.
  • Summer 2023 - A short vacation to the Aztec ruins and an internship before your senior year begins, possibly with a biotech company on 270.
  • You're 21 now and I'm waiting for a big hug after your college graduation.
  • It's 2024 and you've choosen to pursue a career in science, maybe genetics, and you are now heading off to "gradual" school.
  • At 24 you'll have your Master's Degree. Remember, the smart people stop with their Masters; only the foolish ones go on for their Ph.D.
  • 2026 - The world awaits you. You've got your first job and a fiance, too!
  • 2027 - Wedding bells are ringing.
  • You're 26 now. Will you make me a grandfather before I'm 65?

    Is this my wish list or yours? I only wish for you to have a long and happy life. Don't sacrifice long-term happiness for short-term gratification.

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